OBatRFan wrote:
So how do you guys learn if you're not taking lessons? Tabs or something?

When I first started it was all tabs but after years of playing, figuring stuff out by ear becomes pretty easy. What I do regret is not trying to figure out stuff by ear earlier. Even if you cheat a little to get where on the neck the chords are being played, try to figure a few chords or licks of a solo out. It'll be really beneficial in the long run. As far as scales and chords go, everything can be found online. Definitely get comfortable with playing the pentatonic, major, and minor scales up and down the neck. Learning the modes comes in handy also but major, minor, and pentatonic scales are the most important for the type of music you listed.