Gee, just read all of your subsequent comments, after just making my last post...and yes i have been "used" in my life, but that was MY fault. I'm smarter now. I also have been truly cherished and loved. Most importantly, I have have been with men who are conscious and self aware of what is motivating them to act in certain ways and have tried to do the right thing by me. To me, that's love, no matter what "form" it takes. He's being somewhat honest and revealing,in the song, about what is going on with him. I just don't feel having this lonely "need" justifies this kind of behavior. Envision a young person listening to this song, who is not very evolved. S/he might think, "Gee, if it is good enough for JM, it's good enough for me because, after all, I am lonely and I just want to feel something. Think I'll try to make myself feel better by doing what the character in this song did." I am far from a saint. myself. I've probably used people in my time (yes I used the word "used"), but I am NOT proud of it. I like the song. I am just kind of concerned about the indirect message it sends RE how to treat others.